Three Relationship Stages Of Working With Your Spiritual Guides
Working with our spiritual guides is a relationship. It requires mutual respect, care, and love. However, like any relationship, it tends to go through “stages.” Knowing the stages of this sacred covenant can sometimes help us to move through them more swiftly.
Stage #1 – Parent/Child
In the early stages of a relationship with our guides, we often expect a great deal, perhaps even taking our guides for granted – much like a child. We typically do all the talking, do very little listening, and constantly ask for answers, guidance, and communication. When we do receive answers or guidance, we may dismiss it and/or ask for a different or better answer.
Trust may also be an issue during this phase. We may doubt their presence and frequently ask for evidence and proof of their existence.
Anger towards our guides may also be a part of this stage. Like a child, if things don’t go our way, we may get upset. Perhaps we get upset because it appears they aren’t responding. Maybe we feel they are not offering the guidance or answers we want or need. Or, maybe we’re upset because our life issues aren’t being resolved and we naively hold them accountable.
In this parent/child phase, we turn to our guides believing they are here to serve us and meet our demands. It is a natural stage in the relationship, although an immature one. Like parents, our guides are there to provide steady, unyielding and loving support. In the beginning, they will lovingly treat us like the children we are – always reassuring us and providing guidance based on our current level of understanding. While they are here to serve and support us as spiritual “parents,” we are the ones who must grow-up and allow our connection with them to mature.
Stage #2 – Teacher/Student
With maturity, the parent/child dynamic slowly fades away and evolves into the teacher/student phase. At this point in the relationship we have developed confidence in the presence of our guides. We realize they are always with us and we no longer need their constant reassurance. In addition, we recognize how they communicate with us, both internally as well externally, and trust the source of the communication, as well as its content – even if we don’t always agree with it, or understand it.
At this phase, we have lessened our demands. We have discovered that our guides are not going to solve our problems or tell us what to do. We have made the realization that our guides will always allow us the ability to make our own choices and will never offer information which violates the all-important Universal Principle of “Choice” and “Free Will.”
No longer a child, we now recognize that we hold the power. As a result, when we call on our guides, we look to them to provide us with wisdom and advice. They have become our teachers and trusted advisors. We don’t expect them to resolve our issues, but we respect their wisdom and perspective. From this phase, we accept the relationship with our guides as one where they are still above us, but we are no longer children. Now, we are students.
Stage #3 – Partnership & Co-Creation
As we evolve past the first stages of the relationship, we start to embrace our guides on an equal level. Not only do we trust their presence, guidance and support, we also trust our own inner guidance and divine power. From here, we view our guides as partners, and confer with them as equals. Like a trusted friend or companion, we invite their perspectives and insights, but then carefully weigh their input before making a final decision on how to act. We acknowledge that our own inner power is as great as theirs, while fully respecting their advice and wisdom. We know their perspective comes from a higher point of view, that it is free of ego, and is always for our highest good. As a result, we work in partnership with our guides to create solutions and outcomes which serve the highest good. We honor their participation in our life and are deeply grateful and humbled by their presence.
At this highest level, we also take on a role which allows for co-creation. All beings, in flesh or spirit, have the desire to create and express their innermost self – this includes our guides. Creation happens in both dimensions, each supporting the other.
At the stage of co-creation, we have finally come to know who we are and what we want. We implicitly trust spirit and have a strong sense of discernment. This does not mean our life is perfect. We still seek guidance – but perhaps we also give it! We not only ask for ourselves, but have reached a point of desiring to give in return. In other words, we see our guides not as parents, teachers, or partners, but other living beings that also have desires and goals. Just because they have chosen to be our guides does not mean they are devoid of purpose or intent. By seeing them as co-creators, we honor their goals and desires as deeply as we honor our own. Luckily, since they are our guides, this relationship is one which will always be mutually beneficial.
At this stage, we acknowledge our desire to create and express who we are. We invite connections with those in spirit who support our goals, and in return, offer to be of service to them. We acknowledge their desires and work to assist them as much as they assist us. At this stage of the relationship we have become equals – the guide simply standing in the world of spirit and we standing in the world of the physical – but both are one and the same.
Once we achieve this powerful stage in our relationship, we have developed a deep sense of love and gratitude, as well as purpose. We have seen the God in ourselves, as well as those in spirit who serve us – and we endeavor to serve them in return.
Having reviewed the Three Stages of Spirit Guide Relationships, I encourage you to take a look and ask yourself where you are with your guides. It’s also important to realize that you may have one level of relationship with one or two guides, while a very different level with other guides. For example, I have a very different type of relationship with my daily guides than I do with those who show up to simply teach me something or share information. These “spiritual teachers” are not with me every day of my life. They are only here for a period of time, and since they are new to me, my relationship with them may need to start or reside at the second stage. In other words, just as you have very different levels of relationships with different people here on earth, the same may be true for those in spirit.
So, if you want more out of your relationship with your spirit guides, then take a look and see what you can do to move to the next level. And don’t forget to ask your guides to help! Everyone benefits from a stronger relationship – even those in spirit.
Thanks for reading.
Until next time…